The Four Agreements Part 2

Before I move on to the third agreement, I would like to say how important I think it is that this second agreement – this idea of taking nothing personally – is, and also to recognize how difficult it would be to really be a part of our lives. I`ll give you an example. I go through Kellogg every day, and there are a number of people who confuse this road for the Backstretch to the Indy 500. I do my best to stay in traffic, which means I`m over the speed limit of seven or eight miles per hour. Again and again, when the three lanes are tight, someone will rush behind me and pretend I`m an idiot, because I can`t drive through the bumper-lined cars up to the bumper. And when they end up climbing next to me, they`re going to say a little obscenity and offer me their only finger salute. In Part 2 of this two-part video, we learn something about the book of the law that governs our mind and the inner judge that makes us suffer because we never compare ourselves to our “image of perfection.” All our normal tendencies are lost in the domestication process, and we begin to look for what we have lost. We seek freedom because we are no longer free; we seek happiness because we are no longer happy; We seek beauty because we no longer believe that we are beautiful. What we are looking for is our “me.” With practice, the four agreements help us restore our “authentic self” and this is the greatest gift we can make ourselves.

Don Miguel Jr. told a story of travels with his father for some lectures. One specific evening, they did their event and returned to the hotel and looked for a place to dine. I quote some of the author`s thoughts on this: what you think of me doesn`t matter, and I don`t take what you think, personally… No matter what you think and feel, it`s your problem, not my problem. It`s the way you see the world. It`s not personal, because you`re dealing with yourself, not me. You create an entire image or movie in your head, and in that image, you are the director, you are the producer, you are the protagonist or the lead actress. All the others are a secondary actor or an actress. It`s your movie.

The way you see this film corresponds to the agreements you made with life. The problem is simple: our belief systems — our agreements — are inflicted on us by the world around us. What we are as human beings depends on the beliefs that our parents, teachers, nations and the media have placed in us. We will be little more than a reflection of the world around us, unlike the authentic people who are earthy on truth and love. After the first chord – be immaculate with your word – here is the second agreement: don`t take anything in person. Don Miguel Ruiz insists that each of us lives in the world we create with our convictions, our chords, and that our personal world is reflected in our words.